Relationships and Kids
Having a relationship is one of the most daunting things to do after a divorce. The most difficult thing about it is how it will affect your children. A good Tacoma Divorce Attorney should have a talk with you about divorce and new relationships with kids.
You and your children will obviously need time to adjust after the divorce but after some time, dating is recommended to help you move on. Romantic activities are bound to arise regardless of how much you want to avoid them.
Some ways to help them ease into it is:
- only telling them about serious relationships
- preparing them for the first meeting
- help them get over their fear of meeting
- being discreet
Only Tell Them About Serious Relationships
You do not have to introduce every single guy you go out with your kids. Despite your children’s curiosity and possible pestering about your dates, you should be honest with them and tell them you don’t want them to meet any of your dates until it is something serious.
The problem with introducing relationships too early is that you may set up your kids for disappointment if you end up terminating the relationship. Explain to them that there is time for them to meet a boyfriend/girlfriend whenever it becomes serious.
Prepare Your Kids for the First Meeting
Before introducing your girlfriend/boyfriend to your children, you should ensure that they are both prepared for the meeting. When you feel that the time is right for them to meet, you should sit down with them and ask them if they are okay with meeting each other.
If both are okay with meeting you should set a date for them to meet in a neutral environment. If any of them are not okay with it, you should refrain for a while longer.
If your kid and your boyfriend share an interest or activity, it would be wise to organize a meeting in which both can share.
Help Them Get Over Fear Towards Meeting
Sometimes your children will not be ready to meet someone who is special to you but they will instead reject them completely. The same goes for your boyfriend or girlfriend.
A crucial aspect of dating after a divorce especially if you have children is to be completely honest with all parties involved. That way, you can deal with any negative attitudes that may have towards each other.
Your child may just want his/her father and mother to be together not that he/she hates your new catch. It is your job to make your boyfriend/girlfriend and your child understand that if both are on the same page, it would be best for all involved.
Be Discreet
If you are having intimate relations with someone after your divorce you should ensure that you are discreet about it or you risk your children finding out from some other place. Your kids are always learning from you so if you are not open about the nature of your relationship, your kids might grow up with a very skewed outlook as to what intimate adult relationships should be.
If you want to have a relationship with someone after your divorce is final, it is crucial to involve your children. Ensure that you talk to a divorce lawyer at 253-300-2055 at Alliance Law Group about this and they may point you in the right direction.