Divorce can be a draining experience—physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially. However, a bad marriage is equally draining over the long haul. To make sure that you survive your divorce, there are some tips that you can incorporate into your daily life that will allow you to maintain a balanced perspective. As experienced Tacoma, WA divorce attorneys, we recommend the following so you can emerge from your divorce stronger than ever.
Allow Yourself to Grieve
When you divorce, you might have lost your best friend and the only person you could really be honest with. This is a terrible loss—and you should allow yourself to feel it.
It is important not to power through and suppress your emotions. Instead, be in the present and be honest with what you are feeling. Of course, it is important not to wallow. So make regular time each day to be sad and then try to keep busy the remainder of the day.
Remember the Good Times
The Good Men Project has an excellent piece of advice: as you replay your marriage in your mind, try to focus on the good, not the negative. Remember the fun you had together and how the relationship helped you grow.
If you only focus on the negative, you could beat yourself up for even getting into the relationship in the first place. This type of attitude could make you gun shy about future relationships also.
Do Something New
A divorce is an excellent time to focus on personal growth. Focus on becoming the person you always wanted to be.
You can try something you would never have had the courage to do before:
- Take up a hobby
- Start a side hustle
- Take a class or go back to school and earn a degree
- Start jogging or walking to get in shape
Engage in Financial Planning
Many people are shocked at how much more expensive it is to live as a single person than as a couple. Instead of splitting utilities and rent with someone, you pay everything. Believe it or not, even buying groceries can be more expensive when you are shopping for only one.
Now is the time to engage in sensible financial planning:
- Make a budget and stick with it. Pay down as much debt as you can and use extra money to fund your retirement.
- Cut out non-essentials, like expensive meals out or a gym membership you never use.
- Pay down debt. Reducing your debt increases your credit score and can make it easier for you to get established on your own.
- Assess where you are career-wise and plan your next move.
Reducing financial stress is a big step to take to regaining your sanity and thriving post-divorce.
Tacoma, WA Divorce Attorneys Who Care about You
At Alliance Law Group, we never treat our clients like a number. Instead, our holistic approach allows us to focus on your well-being, not just the legal aspects of your case.
If you suspect that divorce is on the horizon, please contact us today. We can meet with you for a free consultation if you call 253-581-0660.